Compulsion is kind of impulse and impulse is some strong feeling or wish to do or have something. This is an instinct of human. There are many diverse compulsions and this depends on the situation, but the always same and obvious thing is that we should regulate our compulsion ourselves. If we can put it in right way, it can be called as a ‘desire’, but if it is put in wrong way, it can make unhoped result. Then how can we regulate our compulsion to be a good desire?

         First, it should be beneficial and have a good effect on ourselves in the long run, not in the short run. If we chase only to satisfy our instant compulsions, it cannot bring good result.

         Second, we should make the result be not only good for us but also for others. Just focusing oneself is not healthy. Sure, most of us always do something for ourselves, but if we consider other people more than us a little more, our society can be far more beautiful place.

         Third is understanding. We should understand that all people have different hopes so we should respect them. It is because all people are different so can have diverse urges. Not only my mind but others’ also important. This sort of conception can solve the conflict which is caused when people want different things.

         I would like to tell a short story for example. When I was young, I considered only my desires and didn’t care any others. Someday, my mother called my older brother and me and said “I have a fabric coin purse, I will give this you guys, who wants to have this?” I held my hand up high and shouted “me, me, I want it!” So my mother gave the purse to me. At that time my brother also wanted to have one, but he chose more high-leveled desire which gives up for young sister and makes her happy than instant compulsion. But I didn’t know at that time. And then my mother said again, “I have a carp key holder too, who wants have this? I think I should give it to your brother to be fair, Right?” The key holder was far more awesome than my fabric purse so I was sad. But I could not deny that was for my brother, because he didn’t just consider for himself but more for me, and in the long run it was better way because I became to know he was right.

         If we regulate our compulsion in positive ways, it can be a great energy for us. However ,if we use it in negative ways, there is not a holding us. The ways are very close and cannot be detached like the face and back of a coin, but the result is very different. It depends on us.